I know that pretty much everyone knows this already, but I’m going to write about it anyway—it’s never enough to stress how much being happy is important.
We all have hardships. We all fall down but we manage to find our way up again. Why? Because we want to and we decide to do so.
No matter if someone broke your heart or you’ve lost someone, your life has to go on—it’s a little bit harsh to say that, but it’s true. Now, it’s up to you whether you are going to dwell in the past or you are going to embrace the future and rearrange yourself—your perspective and your attitude—to be able to enjoy everything that your life has got to offer.
I always say that some higher force, or God, or whatever you want to call it, won’t ever serve you more than you can handle. You’ve been through hell. You thought your life is going to end right at that moment. But still, here you are—still alive, still struggling to move forward. You see? Nothing can beat you. You are moving on. The only thing is that it’s up to you whether you will bury your past and grab for the future or keep doing what you’ve been doing—nothing.
I’m not saying that it’s easy. Heck, if it was easy, I wouldn’t have written this. I wish I could give you some kind of magic formula for you to follow and POOF!—you’re happy. But it doesn’t work that way. I can only speak from my own experience and hope some of my words will help you, too.
Stop blaming the past and stop thinking about the past. You cannot change it and you know that. Stop thinking about what you would have done differently because you had your chance then and you didn’t take it. You did only what you thought was right.
Don’t worry—you will get another chance to redeem yourself for the mistakes you did in the past. That is actually what the past is all about—to make us learn from our past events. And then comes the future to give us the chance to make things right again. You always have a choice, but you have to be patient.
You have to realize that you have the ability to change your life. You are the only one who is responsible for your life, for your actions, and, most importantly, your happiness. Forget about that brain-numbing ignorance. I know that every time you decide to do something with your life—to take charge—you regret it because it’s hard and you automatically wish to go back to the life you knew before. You think to yourself that it’s not that bad—you got used to living that way and you will make peace with it.
But no!—That’s the wrong answer. Don’t be a wuss and fight for your happiness. I can’t stress enough that it’s up to you and it was up to you from the beginning. There is no need to put blame on others for the things that are happening to you because you are the one who has the ball in your court—you are calling all the shots. If something is not right, stop blaming others because you are the only one to blame.
Until you realize your happiness is up to you to keep, you will be stuck in the merciless routine of your unhappy life.